But this time, so far as I can tell, my mother has....

“ But this time, so far as I can tell, my mother has not made her husband her desire incarnate, though she does love him very much. And for his part, so far as I can tell, he doesn’t try to talk her out of her self-deprecation, nor does he abet it. He simply loves her. I am learning from him. ”

Maggie Nelson

From : The Argonauts