Our Narcissistic Mother told us a Big Lie. She told....

“ Our Narcissistic Mother told us a Big Lie. She told it subliminally if not in actual words. And The Big Lie was this: If we tried hard enough we could win her approval and her love. If we were good enough, or wise enough, or beautiful enough, or that-magical-unspecified-ingredient enough. In other words, if we achieved perfection, she would love us. ”

Danu Morrigan

From : You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother! Understanding and Healing for Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers