Don’t use “below-the-belt” tactics. These include:....

“ Don’t use “below-the-belt” tactics. These include: blam- ing, interpreting, diagnosing, labeling, analyzing, preaching, moralizing, ordering, warning, interrogating, ridiculing, and lecturing. Don’t put the other person down. ”

Harriet Lerner

From : The Dance Of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships