Quotes by : Harriet Lerner

Don’t use “below-the-belt” tactics. These include: blam- ing, interpreting, diagnosing, labeling,....

Our society cultivates guilt feelings in women such that many of us still feel guilty if we are anything....

We may view it as our responsibility to control something that is not in fact within our control and....

There’s a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don’t need outside affirmation....

When we take rejection as proof of our inadequacies, it's hard to allow ourselves to risk being truly....

..All of us are vulnerable to intense, non-productive angry reactions in our current relationships if....

Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan but to have any meaning or viability at all....

We may believe that anxiety and fear don't concern us because we avoid experiencing them. We may keep....

If you pay attention, you may find that it is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing....

Control is an illusion—a fact you will learn very fast if you become ill, or have things fall apart....